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Post by Just D James on Jun 6, 2016 19:47:31 GMT 8
to put things in context - I accept Cedric views on sideline coaching - I just didn't agree with it - I guess we can agree to disagree - I had all intents and purposes to help - but mistaken to be seen as interfering and what I didn't appreciate was - for the afterthought to come only after the game the next day when in fact after the game on that day itself, Cedric and I were still hving friendly chats - so you can imagine my astonishment when I was accused to being disrespectful about sideline coaching.
I would have thought that if it was an issue, I should have been spoken to by Cedric during or after the game but nothing was forthcoming.
In any case, I have acknowledged it - so I believe I have told Cedric it wont happen again if he's skip - and I also recognise that the concept of handling issues with most people is probably very different where what I was taught - which was to have things spoken to if anything after game or in your face like a man - and not sneak round someone's back and have accusations levied against you so ultimately I have no opportunity to defend myself.
anyway, like one famous player used to suffer - reputation precedes me - so I accept whatever has been levied against me. now I just chill and play the game - I try not to interfere so much in anything else much less any decisions in any game. I just encourage and make suggestions where it is appropriate without doing more.
Doing more seems to get me into trouble -
Cedric was a friend, I hope he still is. We went to the same school - I know his brother - so I was just disappointed and surprised at the stance he took. that's not the style of the brotherhood we were taught at school and that's not the Cedric I know. I am not saying he is at fault. I am just surprised and disappointed. anyway that's past now. there are more important things to life. Its just football. hahaha like LVG managing united and now thank goodness, mourinho!
btw, Rajiv, the Neymar trick in your video was not even close to what got me "excited" - the stunt occurred was hilarious and infact, in my words blatantly disrespectful becos if it was Neymar's I would have seriously applauded - it was literally grabbing the ball in between both feet and doing hopscotch! nothing like the skill in your video!
you should ask Raj - we didn't know whether to laugh or abuse the person who did it - it was not even a skill?!!
it was almost if someone didn't know how to avoid tackles and resorted to such buffoonery!
Lastly I cannot comment on those people who choose to stay away because of me since no one approaches me with the issue and I cannot even apologise to them or answer to accusations -
I see people doing worse things in our games but obviously don't appreciate me bearing the brunt of the heavier penalties than these people but then again, who says anything has to be fair. end of the day, its just football.
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Post by Just D James on Jun 14, 2016 17:03:35 GMT 8
thanks Rajiv -
I now understand what I need to apologise for -
so to all who enjoyed this soap opera and drama - I would like to on record apologise unreservedly and sincerely to those who have been offended by my past actions, including but not limited to the following:
(a) winding up;
(b) arguing;
(c) coaching from sidelines (and thus diluting the role of the captain);
(d) making calls when I was not the skipper;
(e) making substitutions without permission of the captain
I am happy to apologise for anymore things that people would accuse me with - if only they would tell me in the face instead of letting Rajiv (who hadn't witnessed it himself) but have had to rely on third party accusations (rightly or wrongly) - guys, its not fair to Rajiv man - if he claims I did it and I hands to heart said I didn't?! who is he supposed to believe?!
then in the end, that anonymous person with his conspirators would have succeeded in sowing discord between Rajiv and I?!! gosh! then all he can rightfully do is cede to these people and suspend me!
in that light I owe tremendous respect to Calvin for willing to say things in my face, despite it being blunt and sometimes I disagree with but I totally respect him for being the man that he is and manning up to me if he doesn't like what I am doing -
As for the rest who cant do a Calvin, you know who you are - running off to Rajiv doesn't help because I am puzzled at some of the accusations even sometimes. so how can I improve if I don't know what I am guilty of?!
Again, pretending to shake hands and be friends after the game and then running off to complain to Rajiv as well is really poor taste. if we are men enough to have a chat after the game then tell me in my face - if I have been an asshole - I will assure you if I share your view - I will surely apologise -
Lastly - for those who have maintained confidence and continued to want to share a game of football with me -
I say an enormous "Thank you"! for your support -
you are true men and true football buddies indeed!
Happy to put these behind me - Let's just enjoy the game without trouble! and let our feet do the talking with the ball!
Zip it as Rajiv says!!!
60 mins of silence please.....
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Post by Rajiv on Jun 14, 2016 21:47:24 GMT 8
Dennis, you forgot a critical one: You just have to learn to drop it. Learn to relax Dennis. Try yoga? From the report thread for the game at Khalsa on Thursday, 9 June 2016: .... .... Andrew was a very physical and robust player - .... .... Never heard that said about Andrew before, and not anything like what I've seen of him before! .... seeing this scenario, I thought best to pit myself against Andrew and protect our midfield, but youthful exuberance took over, and in one keen jostle for the ball, Andrew took offence at my efforts and shoved me in the chest, what ensued was: James: (after being shoved in the chest) - what's your problem bro? Andrew: my problem is with you! James: (looking round to Shushil) - captain, you should control your player before things get worse! Andrew: shut up lah you! shut up! And I walked away - Ivo - came running up to me - and kept saying shut up and play the game -(not sure how he was being helpful there with those comments) - .... Dennis, after the game, Ivo messaged me to say you were annoying and in the face of an opponent. I asked Sushil who you had a run in with, and he said Andrew. I asked Andrew what happened, and he said nothing much, only that you pushed him and challenged him to get past him, so he did. We had a laugh. You're a clown Dennis. You're better off addressing your own captain to see if there is an issue that needs to be addressed with the opposing captain, rather than telling the opposing captain what he should be doing. You may have apologised for your behaviour, but there is no point if you repeat such behaviour. .... IF Ivo didn't have a poor game, I am sure we would have put up a better fight. .... Football should be played in silence henceforth. Zip it! they say! I think Ivo found you annoying and was put off his game. Sometimes, noise is counter-productive. If you don't know when it's good and when it's not, silence is the better alternative. And you have to stop being obnoxious, whether to your opponents, or your team-mates, during the game. Trying to kiss and make up after the game doesn't help. If you find it hard, of course, silence is the remaining solution. Also from the report thread for that game: .... .... I even applauded John for a good goal despite him fouling me once without apologising and having the cheek to try and dribble and score thereafter without even checking if he had caused injury. John on a number of occasions didn't play to the call, kicked the ball away a few times, (unsportsmanlike conduct I thought) and can even be sneaky to claim he didn't hear the call although everyone has stopped play! - but John being John, don't mind him - again pure enthusiasm - and he helped his team score and assist a couple of goals with his zealous efforts! he did kick the ball away a few times when the call didn't go his way. .... You still haven't learnt: - You don't have the final say on calls.
- Everyone doesn't have to agree with you.
- Unless a call is conceded, play continues. If agreement is reached between the captains that is was a foul, play is called back for the foul. If no agreement is reached, the game continues, and the incident can be discussed later on the report thread.
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Post by Just D James on Jun 21, 2016 17:37:18 GMT 8
sigh - same issues - but it doesn't matter - my reputation precedes me so I must have asked for it - and I don't have to be liked, and I don't aim to be liked, - I do my part for the team when we play - I don't need opponents to like me - at least at the end of the game, no one can say I didn't put in enough effort when I suit up for a week day game -
On account of events, instead of asking the affected individuals - you should try asking a wider spectrum of independent witnesses at the game - then again, if I am already guilty before the inquiry - why bother?, we all have better things to do in life.
End of the day its just a game, everyone wants a run out - that's all.
sometimes people come into the game with their attitudes. I accept that. that's why I had no issue with Andrew - don't forget, the incident was - he shoved me and was spoiling for a fight, remember? I just told his captain to take charge, - like you have always advocated - instead of rising to the challenge, then I will get sanctioned again - so by telling his captain to take charge, I get told off for doing that too?
so what's really right then at that point when he was challenging me for some fistcuffs? deck him and end the argument? no we are legal practitioners so we will commit no crime.
you are saying no one has had an issue with Andrew since whenever, but similarly I have no issue with him - he was the one who had an issue with me, remember? the facts as reported.
until that game, I have played 4 games at Khalsa, also no issue. and not forgetting some regulars there from last 4 weeks were also there. yes we are not used to one another - some of the new ones on that night, Ivo - (I have only played with him once and was very impressed the first time round) and this 2nd time round, he had an issue with me - as did I if you count having a terrible game as one - just joking - first time playing Khalsa with him so the absent efforts would appear more obvious than usual as compared to a smaller 6 aside pitch - on his day, he is a sublime and very good player - now I understand him better and his strengths - and will try to co-ordinate with him - and Andrew - he was just physical and robust, so I met him at his game- so what wrong has been committed? so isn't it really more about being familiar with each other's style? rather than jumping to the conclusion that "he has a problem" "he was misbehaving" - and being tolerant with each other?
Sven had a great game the first time we played together and not so great one that time - I have no issue with him and cannot fault him for efforts but would even applaud him!
at the rate of things - you are potentially opening a floodgate of dangerous actions on me man - recalcitrant non peace keepers will be thinking, "look we can do whatever we want against James, say whatever we want" - "because he will always be the one at fault regardless"!! "because he still hasn't learnt"!!!
anyway no matter let's take it one step at a time - its only a game at end of the day.
so I would say let the thread read " Attitudes, Diversity and Tolerance - the Singapore Futsal Giffas Way!"
just a suggestion I think -
It was also good to see a returning prodigy, as I didn't know Ashwin was back the other day - but it was good catching up with him again and he's still just as good - and despite his repertoire of dribbling skills and quick feet - he always had a good temperament, never challenging anyone to physicality or have the red mist suddenly descend upon him - I think in that regard, Rajiv if you had a hand? you taught well!
kudos!
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Post by Rajiv on Jul 3, 2016 20:26:27 GMT 8
Unfortunately, I don't think much has been resolved from all this to and fro, I just hope you continue to make an effort to play in the right spirit, and not to rub a lot of other players up the wrong way, whether they are your team-mates or on the opposing side. If it means playing in complete silence, so be it. From above: .... Going forward, I'll let Dennis play in any game he wants to. However, he remains on probation, so I won't allow him to put his name down himself, at least until the end of June 2016. He has to do so through me. He is also excluded from team selector/captain polls until the end of the year. .... Dennis can now put his own name down for games. |
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Post by Rajiv on Jun 12, 2017 9:55:11 GMT 8
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Post by Rajiv on Jun 13, 2017 13:18:50 GMT 8
From the report thread for the game on Saturday (10 Jun 2017) at Grandstand: Nice profile picture Love it  Yahooooo Here are other options, taken as screenshots from GENERATE A RANDOM ANNOYED FOOTBALLER:    Choose one, or generate your own! |
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